Dating and marriage and how long


It’s a question that comes up occasionally within a singles ministry.

If you are seriously dating someone, how long should it be before you pop the question?

How much time does it take to determine if he or she is “the one”? I know of people who have gotten married very quickly (like in a matter of days) and are still married decades later—and people who did the same thing and were divorced just as quickly.

Or, a couple may be “in a relationship” for a decade, finally get married, and then split up in the first year.

To this question, I respond that most of the things that are worth achieving in life require us to delay gratification and to prioritize restraint over indulgence in more primitive drives.